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And the amazing thing is, the monkey would rather stay trapped than let go of the banana!


This is an ancient Indian tale, with plenty of modern day relevance.  Monkeys really like sweet fruit. In particular, they find ripe bananas irresistible.  Knowing this, monkey catchers have devised a cunning plan.  They cement a metal glass or Perspex case into the ground. It has a small hole in it, big enough to put a banana into the case, and also just big enough for a monkey to get their hand into, to reach the banana.  However, when the monkey has grabbed the banana, the hole is not big enough for the monkey to bring their clenched fist and the banana back through. So unless the monkey lets go of the banana, he or she  is trapped.

This seems an excellent metaphor for anyone who limits their freedom through not letting go…for example:
• Hanging on to bad memories and habits
• Remaining bitter about previous experiences or relationships
• Worrying about past mistakes or missed opportunities
• Letting other people ‘hold you back’

So she asked me: “what should I do?” My answer was: “change your friends.”

Someone told me the other day that they found many of our sessions inspiring, but when she returned to her friends, they were very disparaging and critical – of her and her enthusiasm.

If friends behave in such a belittling and unsupportive way, how are they ‘friends’? But because she had become used to them, and possibly emotionally dependent on them, she was clearly reluctant to ‘let go’. They were her bananas…

The monkeys could choose their freedom any time they wanted to. And so can we.

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We know it’s a faff
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We know it’s a faff
And a bit of a pain;
But it really helps us
Stay on top of our game…